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The Psychology of Being Late

The Psychology of Being Late

I began working with a new CEO executive coaching client last week. Joe was referred by the Board of Directors to improve his leadership development skills and board relations.

Joe was late to our initial meeting. I would attempt to leave a message on his voice-mail that was always full.

He was moving in a number of different directions, stressed-out and sleep-deprived.

At our initial executive coaching meeting, the CEO and I discussed the importance of being fully present in our meetings. He agreed that he wouldn’t check his e-mail or iPhone.

We would be mindful and respectful of each other modeling executive presence. We would focus on being fully present to further his agenda of being on time and developing mindful leadership skills.

Most requests are not urgent and that he could educate his people and even clients to be respectful of other people’s precious time. We can all learn and grow together and collaboratively create a more sane, happy and productive workplace.

Chronic Lateness

At the core of chronic lateness are often issues of self-worth. Often there is a core belief that they aren’t worthy. At the extreme even an impostor when they finally do show up. Confident people with high self–esteem typically meet their agreements, and display empathy caring about others. They are self-aware and show up fully present.

A number of my executive coaching clients who are chronically late don’t have a clear self-identity. They are internally disorganized. When everything is a priority nothing is a priority, possibly including others.

Coaching can help people change the bad habit of being chronically late. It starts with self-awareness. Receiving positive feedback from others when someone is timely can often help reinforce the new behavior of being on time.

Technology Addiction

It is the chronic and never-ending distraction of today’s workplace that is stealing purpose and progress from our lives. We either take back our attention or risk becoming emotionally addicted to our technology. Our devices have do not have soul or intent. Much too frequently our mobile devices control us more than we control them.

Inner Focus

We live in a culture of distractibility. Many people are unable to focus their energy and attention. They are not fully present or mindful of when they need to be somewhere.Often, they are stressed-out and lack resilience.

People struggle with busyness. They tell themselves stories of how busy they are, and don’t properly plan for the meeting or other event they need to attend. They have a mindset that often is not respectful of others perhaps projecting their own lack of self-regard.


Honing the skills of self-awareness leads to mindfulness—becoming aware of what’s going on inside and around us on several levels. Mindfulness is living in a state of full, conscious awareness of one’s whole self, other people and the context in which we live and work.


One of the critical competencies of emotional intelligence is self-management. Self-management involves using what you know about your emotions to manage them in such a way as to generate positive interactions with others and motivate yourself to be respectful of others time.

Practice Integrity

Self-aware leaders have a clear identity that guides their behavior. Wisdom is having clarity on your core values and how to act congruently in a given situation.

Virtue is acting on that wisdom. Integrity is keeping our word and always treating others with respect and kindness.

Executive Coaching

You can develop the emotional intelligence competencies of self-awareness, positive self-regard, and good self-management by working with an executive coach.The investment is well worth the reward: your ability to influence the future, your career and your personal-development capabilities.

One of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself is “Am I a trustworthy leader who inspires individuals and organizations to achieve their highest potential, flourish at work, experience elevating energy and achieve levels of effectiveness difficult to attain otherwise?” Emotionally intelligent and socially intelligent organizations provide executive coaching to help leaders create a culture of full engagement.

You can develop the qualities of a fully engaged leader by working with a transformational executive coach.The investment is well worth the reward: your ability to influence the future, your career and your personal-development capabilities.

Are you working in a company where executive coaches provide leadership development to help leaders put emotionally intelligent leadership into action?Does your organization provide executive coaching for leaders who need to be more conscious, and tap into the intrinsic motivation of followers? Authentic leaders tap into their emotional intelligence and social intelligence skills to create cultures where trust thrives.

Working with a seasoned executive coach and leadership consultant trained in emotional intelligence and incorporating assessments such as the Bar-On EQ-I, CPI 260 and Denison Culture Survey can help leaders nurture mindful coaching conversations in the workplace. You can become an inspiring leader who models emotional intelligence and social intelligence, and who inspires people to become fully engaged with the vision, mission and strategy of your organization.

...About Dr. Maynard Brusman

Dr. Maynard Brusman

Consulting Psychologist and Executive Coach|
Trusted Advisor to Executive Leadership
Mindfulness & Emotional Intelligence Workplace Expert

Dr. Maynard Brusman is a San Francisco Bay Area executive coach and leadership development expert. He is the president of Working Resources, an executive coaching and leadership development firm. We specialize in helping innovative companies select and develop emotionally intelligent leaders, and creating organizational cultures where people are fully engaged. 

Maynard is a highly sought-after speaker and workshop leader. He facilitates leadership retreats in Northern California and Costa Rica. The Society for Advancement of Consulting (SAC) awarded Dr. Maynard Brusman "Board Approved" designations in the specialties of Executive Coaching and Leadership Development.

“Maynard Brusman is one of the foremost coaches in the United States. He utilizes a wide variety of assessments in his work with senior executives and upper level managers, and is adept at helping his clients both develop higher levels of emotional intelligence and achieve breakthrough business results. As a senior leader in the executive coaching field, Dr. Brusman brings an exceptional level of wisdom, energy, and creativity to his work.” — Jeffrey E. Auerbach, Ph.D., President, College of Executive Coaching

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